Making a start

Cracking It open

Hiding a dark secret in your life can really eat you up on the inside. Our hope is that by sharing your secret, you can help others in their journey also.

So allow yourself to get into your inner honest place, and take time to unpack your secret.Maybe begin by asking these questions:

  • What is stupidest thing you have done?

  • How relieved were you if you got away with it?

  • Does part of you wish that it was not a secret any more?

  • Is there anything that you really regret that you are hiding deep down inside?

  • Will you ever be able to face it?

  • Would bringing it into the light of day bring you some peace?

Unlocking freedom

Feel More Free

Some of our decisions effect us more that others and stay with us all our life. They can change how we see life, fun, freedom and ourselves. Sometimes the pain of our action or inaction can hurt so much we push it down to a dark place and hide the key.

Life moves on but somehow we are stuck. Do you sometimes feel angry and not really know why? Hidden secrets can do to that you – they want to come outIt is our hope that by doing this you will get a little bit freer.

The Voiceless

Powerless

A dark secret that has a huge and hidden impact on our society is Abortion. Bringing to an end the future life of a child is a difficult decision that impacts everyone, and is a heavy weight to carry over time. The emotional burden that you carry is something that no one tells you about.

This can be especially hard on men and grandparents who felt powerless in this process as they believed it was the sole right of the woman - resulting from the phrase "my body, my choice".We want to help empower men and grandparents to have a voice in the decisions about the life of their children. “My Buddy, My Voice”.

My buddy. my voice.

Feel Heard

Ever wondered why you feel anxiety or frustration as you drive past a little kids rugby game, or or see little kids celebrating birthdays? Why there is an empty gap, or hole in your heart when you get to certain dates?

The "due date" or birthday of your missing child stays with you for life. With it can come guilt, frustration, regret and sadness of the situation.Not being heard, or listened to, and knowing you "should have been a father or grandparent" in this time can be so dis-empowering for the rest of your life. Take power back from this abortion experience today, and choose to expose your secret.Maybe you fully supported, or even pushed the abortion on your girlfriend or wife and as it turned out, you have struggled to live with this decision. Find solace and help others by sharing your story about the true effects of the decision – or how you felt that you didn’t have a voice in the decision.Admit you had a little buddy that you missed out on holding watching grow. Find your voice to express this. Give yourself the freedom to forgive yourself, and tell others of the effects this has had on you.If you have felt powerless in this process, maybe you want to help others by sharing your story.

Please note that we use stock images to protect your identity and allow your honest confession.

My Voice Stories

Finding more help

Go Deeper

Thank you for being brave enough to begin your reflective journey, share your story, or start to think about the life of your missing little buddy.

For some of you this journey may have unearthed more hurts, sadness and emotions that you thought you had. We celebrate this discovery with you, but understand you may need more resources or some professional help to process what is going on for you.

Either way would love you to touch base with us and let us know how we can help, where you are based so we can try to connect you with appropriate resources to help your journey

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600,000 missing little buddies

Sad Reality

Unfortunately since the abortion rules were changed, over 600,000 little buddies have been lost.

We are faced with the reality that 1.2million mums and dads have missing buddies, and 2.4million grandparents have faced this very lonely journey. We understand that there maybe many regrets along the way, unexpected emotions, hurts and pain. We urge you to find your voice to speak up.Remember Your Buddy and Your Voice

My Buddy. My voice

March for life

If you want to remember your missing buddy and find a voice for protecting others from the unexpected long term harms of abortion that seem to be glossed over in the moment, please feel free to join your local march for life.

Feel free to click the link below to give more details

My buddy. my voice

This website is a Voice for Life NZ Project.

Campaign and website created by Imajeo Group Ltd

MY BUDDY. MY VOICE

SHaring My Story

Feel free to submit your abortion story to us. Let us know in as much detail or as simply as you need, so that you can get your darkest secret.When you writing your story, let us know if you discover that maybe you could do with some help to process your feelings.Also comment on whether or not you are happy for us to publish part or all of your story on this site.FYI we will use stock photos to help you be as honest as possible. Feel free to change your name also it that helps you.

Thank you

Thank you for taking the time to write your story.We hope that this is the beginning of your journey to inner healing and peace.

600,000 Lost

Where has this 600,000 number come from?

Using the best available data from sources such as the annual New Zealand abortion statistics (as published by both Statistics NZ and the NZ Ministry of Health); the Report of the NZ Royal Commission on Contraception, Sterilisation and Abortion (as cited in the 1986 history book The Right to Live by Marilyn Pryor); and the United Nations 1973 Demographic Handbook; the official number of abortions that have taken place in New Zealand has now surpassed the staggeringly tragic milestone of 600,000.Some of the yearly abortion totals prior to 1980 could not be verified by way of official New Zealand Government records (many of which are not currently available online or in digital format, but only as hardcopy files in a physical archive). Despite this, there seems to be no compelling evidence which would suggest that this small number of yearly totals - as reported by other non-Government sources, including the United Nations - are fabrications.Even if this small number of yearly abortion totals were to be removed from the overall abortion tally since 1974, using only official NZ Government sources, New Zealand will surpass the 600,000 abortion total sometime around June 2024.

MY BUDDY. MY VOICE

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